Showing posts with label senior citizens in church. Show all posts
Showing posts with label senior citizens in church. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Shot in the Back: When Churches Shoot Their Leaders


They call it friendly fire.  On the battlefield it is usually an accident.  A soldier mistakenly fires his weapon and wounds or kills a comrade.  The soldier thought he was shooting at the enemy, but fired directly at one of his own people.  It is a tragedy.  Everyone feels awful, but the soldier that is hit is just as wounded, or just as dead as if he had been shot by the enemy.  Sometimes friendly fire is not so friendly.  It can be intentional to settle some kind of score with an officer or buddy.  Maybe the officer has pushed hard, maybe he has led the unwilling into a difficult place.  Maybe the shooter is just scared or perhaps his intent is evil.

In the church we have incidents of friendly fire. Young Christians, particularly young pastors, are often victims.  We old grizzled veteran pastors have learned to watch out for it, but sometimes even we older ones fail to avoid becoming a target.  Pastors often lead out thinking that their men (the congregation) will follow them, support them, and do everything they can to win the battle with sin and Satan only to find themselves shot in the back, wounded by their own side, with their souls bleeding and no one to help them.  The very ones who should provide help and support are often the ones who have done the shooting.  Is it any wonder that so many of our churches are ineffective in reaching their communities? Is it any wonder that we have a leadership crisis?  Who wants to face an enemy as formidable as Satan when he can’t trust the people behind him to follow and refrain from shooting him or her? 

When a pastor has felt a few bullets whiz by, or has bled because someone who was supposed to be on his side in our battle with Satan shot him or talked someone else into shooting him.  He gets into the habit of looking over his shoulder and sometimes expects friendly fire even when it isn’t coming.  It is hard to do your best as leader when you always have to keep an eye out for shots from behind.

Pastors accept the call from God and work hard to prepare to lead God’s people.  They are full of the Lord and they want to help the church change the world.  I am confident that they are prepared for the battle with Satan, but I also know they are not prepared to be shot at by those that the Lord has called them to lead.  Seldom are they shot because they are not doing God’s will.  Usually it is because some folks in the church are unwilling to follow them in doing God’s will. 

Many people in our established churches are comfortable.  They don’t want things to change in their beloved church.  I sympathize with that.  My hair is gray, too.  I remember a lot of the same things with fondness: large evangelistic Sunday night services, rousing old hymn singing that raised the roof, camp meetings where people came to actually have their lives changed (and not just to be reunited with old friends), and revivals where the Spirit of the Lord moved among us.  I loved those things, too, but these days God is using different things to reach new generations.  Way too often our young ministers are getting shot in the back by the very people that ought to be not only cheering them on, but also following them to reach a lost and dying world.  These young men and women have a heart for God and an impulse from Him to win their generation.  They are often begged by churches to “come and lead us”.  Many times they hear a church say, “We used to be quite large and we can be again if you just come and lead us.  Young couple with families will come and we will grow again.”  That is what churches say, but is that what they really mean?  As soon as the young pastor begins to make the changes in the schedule, in the music, in the program, or in the décor that he believes will help the church reach new people, the shots start coming.  Not shots from the world, but shots from the church!  “That’s not the music we like.”  “That’s not the way dear old Pastor So-and-So did it.”  “That’s not what we built that room for.”  “Why do we need all this video equipment?”  “Those new people you’ve got coming here don’t know how to dress for church.”  Young leaders are just trying to get the Gospel to people in a way they understand, but too many old veteran church people see only that it is not the way it used to be done.  It is the same message of salvation, holy living, and unity among God’s people, but it is packaged a different way.  Like with any new package, some people like it and some don’t.  The thing a lot of older church people don’t realize is that the new packaging is to attract new customers.  Now is the time to present that same Gospel to younger folks who don’t have our background.  This generation of young people that the church now has to reach is not like ours.  Most of them weren’t taken or even sent to Sunday school by their parents.  Lots of them don’t know the Bible stories that were so much a part of our growing up.  To them the church is that mysterious big building that people they don’t know go to.  If the church is to make a difference in the lives of these people, we need to support our new leaders as they reach out to an unchurched generation.

Some of us are probably afraid that we are not needed by these young ones.  That is not true.  They desperately need our prayers, our encouragement, and our understanding.  They need us to get their sense of urgency for reaching people for God.  They need us to love them and understand that they are attempting to build the Kingdom of God and quit accusing them of trying to tear up the church.  Young leaders will make mistakes. That’s when they need us to give them the courage to try again.  Put away your critical attitude and become a cheerleader for your young ministers.  Ask God to give you a new burden to reach the lost.  When others of your generation start to run them down, stand up for these dedicated young people.  Love them.  Be surrogate parents for them.  Love their kids like they were your own grandkids.  Many of them are far from their families, and they need the family of God to be family to them.  Finally, when you aim your gun, be sure to aim at the enemy.  When you do damage make sure the damage you do is to the Satan’s cause and not to our own people.


Thursday, October 6, 2011

Can a Gray-Headed Congregation Reach the Next Generation?

I have had the privilege this year of visiting a lot of churches, and I’ve found many of them are dominated by people my age and older. Sometimes people from the church want to share with me about their church. Often I’ve heard them say, “Our church needs young people. I just don’t know why we don’t have very many any more.” Many of them have noticed that the attendance of their churches is not growing. Some are even willing to admit, at least to themselves, that the congregation is dwindling. Long-term members remember past glory days and wish for a return to those exciting times. I think there is good news and bad news for congregations in this situation.

The bad news is that the old days will not return. You can’t turn the clock back in the church any more than you can turn it back in your family. We may long for the days when our grown children were small, but wishing will not make it so. In the same way, we may want the church we had in the 1960s or 70s, but that church is gone. It’s the same place your son’s little league team is: in the past.

The good news is that God’s church is not in the past; His message and His love are the same, and your church can once again be vital and alive. Just like new children are playing on the old ball diamond your kids played on, there is a new generation of adults that the church can reach for the Lord. When you drive by the kids’ ball field on a summer evening, you’ll see and hear the excitement of the children and their parents and realize that they’re experiencing the same fun and joy you did. I believe it can be the same way at church. When young families find the Lord, they fill the church with the enthusiasm that many churches filled with senior citizens are missing.

It can happen! The church can again be an exciting place, but seniors have to want it to happen. Seniors hold the control. Whether they are “in office” or not, they hold lots of power. They’re usually major contributors financially, and they’re in position to make or break new proposals by vote, by their complaining, or by withholding their giving. You see, if the next generation is to be reached, the older generation must understand that the priority of the church must be to reach people for Christ—as Jesus put it, make disciples. To do that, seniors have to realize that changes will be required to attract and hold a new generation. And there is the problem: older people hate to change. It comes down to deciding this question: Do we want this church to grow and see people the age of our children and grandchildren find God’s hope, love and salvation, or is it more important for the church to be like we have always known it?

Looking at surveys and reports, we find that many of our churches have become a kind of club that caters to the needs and whims of its members, instead of the church Jesus commissioned. The church that takes the Great Commission seriously puts the needs of people in the community to find salvation ahead of the need of church people to be comfortable with doing things the way they are used to.

I issue a challenge to gray-haired church members like me to ask God to give them an extreme love for the unchurched next generation, and let Him have His way in you to welcome and encourage them to find what you found in Christ long ago. Then, your church will once again ring with excitement and be the lively place you remember and long for. The music probably won’t be the same. The schedule might be different. The decorations will change. But, you will once again feel the same Spirit moving that moved the church long ago and you’ll know that young lives are being changed.

(I suggest a specific way churches can reach the next generation in my post of 2/21/11 titled "A Winning Strategy")